Anger can be a difficult emotion for some women to express while others have absolutely no problem. Most of my experience with the groups I have lead is that the women struggle to express this emotion. This is possibly due to the fact that very few of us know how to express anger in a godly and healthy manner. Maybe it is due to the fact that we haven’t ever seen it done in our own families. Maybe it is because as Christian women we don’t think we are suppose to be angry. Whatever the reason, this session can be a challenge.
If you have women in your group who are struggling with expressing their anger, group leaders may need to intervene. Don’t hesitate to make them rewrite their anger letters and bring them back the following week. Maybe their letter is “angry” but it just doesn’t come across that way when they read it. If this is the case leaders may want to read it for her so that she can hear the words and the emotion behind the letter. I had a group once that had another member who read the letter for one of the other members. It was a different dynamic, but very powerful for both of them.
Your group’s discussions may also reveal some anger targets that no one realized existed. My last group had a great discussion on the media and their involvement in the abortion industry and how they portrayed sex in general. I asked them all to write a letter to the media and bring it back the following week.
If one of your group member is struggling to release some of the anger I would encourage you to use the rock activity found in the leader guide. At the end of the session, replace their letter with a rock and ask them to carry it around until you meet the next time. Have them put it in their purse or something that they carrry around. If there are several letter that they are struggling with, give them a rock for each letter. When your group meets the following week, have this person share what it was like to carry around the rock.
As a leader, make sure you stress the fact that group members should not share their anger letters. You do not want some body’s mother receiving this letter in the mail.