I was out of town for this session, so my co-leader was on her own. The purpose of this session is to begin moving the women to a place of forgiveness. I always remind people that this may not happen over night, though is some cases it can occur quite rapidly.
If you have anyone that carried a rock around for the week, have them share what it was like. Did it give heavier throughout the week? Did they realize how “silly” it was to carry around a weight that wasn’t necessary? When we carry around unresolved anger, we are carrying around a burden that isn’t necessary. We are being weighed down for no apparent reason.
The women should bring two additional letters to this session. One expressing any leftover anger that surfaced during the week and one from God to a post-abortive woman. In the past we have tried to have them write the letter from God to themselves, but it seemed difficult for everyone to do. I always ask my group to think about the other ladies in the group. What do they think God wants them to know. Maybe they have a friend or relative who also has an abortion, what would they want that person to know. By giving this assignment those faces, it makes it easier for the group.
Each member will take time to share their letter with the group. This can be a very emotional time, so make sure you have you Kleenex handy. I had one group where this turned into a time of speaking truth to each other as well. It was really neat to sit back and watch.
One section that I really stress is the “forgiveness of self” (pg. 76-77 of the new learner guide). This is something that I am personally very passionate about. When I first heard the concept that is explained in the book, I wanted to “buck” the whole concept. However, the more I have studied the Bible and forgiveness, the more I was convinced the professor was correct. I have to accept God’s forgiveness. By saying that I can’t forgive myself, then I am ultimately saying (whether I mean to or not) that Christ’s death on the cross wasn’t enough, it wasn’t sufficient. Anyway, that was just my opinion and something that has really changed the way I view things.